Love for life? – 5 reasons why the first love relationship ends
Young people see each other…fall in love…start a relationship … But how many of them stay together their whole life, how many still love each other after years and years? We hear stories from other times when people married very young and stayed by each other’s side until the end (though we wonder how many of them actually loved each other). We hear fairy tales in which the princess and the hero live happily ever after…
But real life today is not like that! Few can maintain a relationship for a lifetime and even fewer stay with their first love. Although in those moments you see yourself together with the person you love forever, things change.
First love is overwhelming, enthusiastic, scary, and gives you wings (when it’s shared!). We always remember our first love and relationship, with nostalgia; that person always remains special and remains in our hearts. But other loves also come, some shorter, others lasting… [Tips for a lasting relationship]
5 reasons why the first love relationship ends
It is said that “curiosity killed the cat”; in the same way, curiosity and the need for something else, for experimentation, kill many relationships. Although wonderful, first love often comes to a dead end because of people’s tendency to ask themselves “What is it like with someone else?”, “Am I missing out?”, “Shouldn’t I try something new while it’s still here?” time?”. One of the partners will regularly experience the yearning for something new, unexpected, intense, or just different.
2. Human nature:
It cannot be said that man is polygamous by nature, but it’s not really monogamous either. In fact, most of them are what could be called “serial monogamists”: they love one person for a while, and then move on to another. It is, however, more honest to end one relationship and start another than to cheat on your partner! Rarely does a person remain satisfied and happy for an extended period with the same partner.
3. Lack of experience in maintaining a relationship.
This is a “bug” of the first relationship: both of you are naïve, and lack experience; you have high hopes and beautiful dreams. But you don’t know that there will be less good moments and impasses as a couple. You don’t have the experience to handle conflicts and you don’t yet know that any lasting relationship requires you to work on it.
The first serious argument can also be the end. You learn a lot from your first relationship and you learn constantly over time – in future relationships, you will be better equipped to overcome obstacles. But the first time, you rely more on intuition and make mistakes.
4. Changes in partners during maturation.
You most often have your first relationship when you are very young; the idea that you will grow and mature together, supporting each other, is beautiful. But with maturity, every person changes, and these changes can make you no longer recognize each other.
The line “I don’t recognize you anymore, you’re not the person I fell in love with” appears frequently. Also, with maturation, everyone weaves a future and makes plans that will be different from those of adolescence; sometimes, the life plans of the two do not reconcile with each other…
5. Compatibility between partners:
You grow, you change. Moreover, when it comes to the first relationship, it is very possible that from the beginning they were not compatible for a life together, they were not the most suitable for each other. Why? Because young love is par excellence blind, because you choose with your heart, you idealize the other and paint him in beautiful colors.
You don’t think about whether a relationship will have a chance because you are head over heels in love. With time, you will choose to start a serious relationship more thoughtfully, trying to find the right partner (of course, this is not a rule – many continue to blindly fall in love with unsuitable partners, it is a pattern).